从对他人的评价中窥见自己
发布日期:2017-04-08 16:08
从对他人的评价中窥见自己

Sadhguru looks at how our judgements about others reflect the way we think, and how situations need to be judged, not people.

萨古鲁探讨了对他人的看法如何反映我们的思维方式,并说明我们需要评判的应当是情形、而不是人。

 

Q:Sometimes in my life I feel I can read people a bit, but I feel it’s just my ego judging others. How can I know the difference between the two? And even when I do, should I act upon that?

问:在人生中的某些时刻,我觉得自己可以读懂他人,但又会觉得仅仅是自己的小我在作祟,在评判他人。我怎么才能区分这二者的不同?即使学会了如何区分,我应当依循其行事吗?

 

Sadhguru: Most people have a very deep misunderstanding about being effective in the world. They think that by knowing other people, they can be very effective. The idea is that if you know others, you can control the situation in some way. This is not true. If you know what you call “myself” right now, you can become very effective in the world.

萨古鲁:对于如何在这个世界上变得更有成效,大多数人都有着极深的误解。他们认为通过了解他人,自己会变成一个卓有成效的人。在他们看来,一旦你了解他人,你就能更好掌控当下的情形,这种观点是错误的。如果你现在清楚这个被称为“我”的东西是什么,你在世上可以变得极具成效。

 

If you make an effort to read something, maybe sometimes you will, because after all you have a mind and you can judge, but what will you do with these judgments? Today, human society is such that whatever we see – whether it is a tree or a rock or water or anything – we want to see how to use this. We can’t just see anything simply the way it is and leave it there.

如果你努力去解读事物,也许有时你可以做到,因为毕竟你有个头脑,能够做出判断,但你用这些判断来做什么呢?人类社会发展到今天,以至于我们所能看到的一切事物——无论是一棵树、一块岩石、水或其他任何事物——我们只想知道如何对其进行利用。我们没法只是单纯地去看事物本来的样子,不加干涉。

 

If you know what you call “myself” right now, you can become very effective in the world.

如果你现在清楚这个被称为“我”的东西是什么,你在世上可以变得极具成效。

 

This is not just about nature, this goes for people also. Once you get into this mindset, you are always looking at how to make use of these people. This is a serious misunderstanding that has happened in the world. Things were made to be used, and people, to be loved. But the misunderstanding is so deeply ingrained that people are being used and things are being loved. You have seen people divorcing their wives or husbands. How many people do you see divorcing their money? We are using people and loving things.

我们不仅对自然界是如此,我们对人也是如此。一旦你陷入这样的思维方式,你总是在想如何利用他人。这种严重错误的思想在世界各地随处可见。物质是供我们使用的,而人是应当被我们爱的。然而,这种错误的思想如此根深蒂固,导致这世界上,人被利用,而物质却被珍爱。你看到有人跟自己的妻子或丈夫离婚,你看看有多少人肯舍弃自己的钱财?我们利用人,而爱物质。

 

Addressing the deepest core

触及最深处的核心

 

When you look at someone’s body first, immediately your mind will say this person is beautiful or ugly, young or old. All this will occur in the mind in a split second. If you try to judge the person’s behavior or speech, there will be all kinds of judgments: you like them, you dislike them, you hate them, you love them. So don’t look at someone’s body, mind, or emotions. You address the deepest core in this person to start with. First, you bow down to the seed of life which exists in this being. Whatever is the source of life, that is what you refer to as God, isn’t it? The source or seed of life exists in every one of us. First, you bow to this. Your first involvement is with this. Only afterwards you meet the other things in the person.

如果你首先看到的是他人的躯体,你会立刻在脑海中评价这个人的美丑、老少,这在你脑海中会一闪而过。如果你试着评价他人的一言一行,可能会有各种各样的结论:你喜欢他们、讨厌他们、仇视他们、钟爱他们。所以,不要关注他人的躯体、思想、情绪,从一开始就触及这个人最深层次的核心。首先,请向存在于这个生命中的种子鞠躬致敬。无论生命之源以何种形式存在,它就是你们称之为“神”的东西,不是吗?生命之源或生命的种子存在于我们每个人之中,你首先得对这个东西鞠躬致敬。你首先触及的是这个东西,然后才接触到这个人身上的其他东西。

 

Body or mind may not be okay, but you have no issue about that. This person may not be of your culture, or you have likes and dislikes about him. It is okay, because you have first addressed the fundamental source of life. This is not a judgment, this is not a reading. This is a deeper understanding of life, that first when you meet a person, you bow down to the source of life within. With that, you have no conflict or judgment.

他人的身体或思想也许不那么完美,但对你并不构成任何困扰。这个人也许在异国文化中长大,或者你对他有好恶,但这都不是问题,因为你一开始就触及了最根本的生命之源。这不是一种判断、不是某种解读。这是对生命更深层的理解:初遇一个人,你首先对存在于他之中的生命之源鞠躬致敬。由此,你避免了冲突和评判。

 

No human being is constant. Today, someone may be something that you don’t like. Tomorrow morning he or she may be in a wonderful mood. But if you think you have read and made an impression of that person in the past, you will miss that person the way he or she is right now. Once you get into that, it is a trap.

没有任何人是恒定不变的。今天,可能某个人身上的某个方面不太讨你喜欢。第二天早晨,他/她也许会变得欢畅。然而,如果你认为过去已经对他/她有所判断,并对他形成了某种印象,那么你会错过此时此刻这个人的样子。一旦你误入这种思维,那就是一种陷阱。

 

Judging others reflects the way you think

对他人的评价映射你的思维方式

 

Your judgments have nothing to do with the other. Your judgments reflect the way you think. When the mind is on endlessly, it keeps making judgments about everyone and everything in the world. Even if your mind makes judgments about other people, don’t attach any importance to it. Once you start making judgments, invariably, there are only two basic judgments – this is good, this is bad. Everything that you consider as good, naturally you are drawn to it and get attached to it. Everything that you consider as bad, you get repelled from it and negative emotions will flow. So there is no need to judge others. You just have to judge situations. You don’t have to judge people.

你对他人的评价跟那个人毫无关系,它只是反映出你的思维方式。你的头脑在不断运转,不断对世界上的各种人、事进行评价。即便你在脑海中不断地评价他人,请不要把这个过程看得太重要。一旦你开始做判断,你只能得出两个最基本的结论——这个好,那个坏。任何你认为是好的东西,你自然地被其吸引并依附于它,任何你认为是坏的东西,你总是排斥它,引发负面情绪。因此,没有必要去评判他人。你只需要评判情形,无需评判人。

 

All dissatisfaction, all bitterness, all negativity comes out of our own limitations, not because of the situation. Realizing this is maturity. Everyone can make judgments, but those who have developed the urge to grow should stop judging others. Otherwise, for every small step you take forward, you take 100 steps backward. You may not realize it immediately, but you will experience it after a few days or months.

所有的不满、痛苦、负面都来源于我们自身的局限,而不是某个情形。能认识到这点是一种成熟的表现。人人都可以做判断,但渴望成长的人应当停止评价他人。否则,你就会每前进一步,就倒退一百步。可能你不会立刻意识到这一点,但几天或几个月之后,你会体会到这点。

 

So, whether it is a peach or an apple or a person or a tree or any experience, just experience it for what it is. It will go very deep into you. That is when you know life.

因此,无论是一个桃子或苹果、一个人、一棵树或任何一种经验,简单地去体验它本来的样子吧,它会深入到你的内在,这个时候你就会了悟生命。

爱与恩典

萨古鲁

 

 
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