爱,只关乎你自己
发布日期:2018-01-04 16:41
undefinedSadhguru:There is a lot of emotion attached to the subject of love and lots of fanciful things have been said about it, but I would like to bring it down to the mechanics of love. For example, people are saying, “God loves you,” but does anybody really know whether God loves or not?
萨古鲁:人们在“爱”这个主题上倾注了很多情感,并且对其有很多幻想,但是我却想直截了当地谈一下爱的运作机制。例如,人们经常会说,“上帝爱你”。但是上帝爱你与否,真的有人知道吗?
    
Love is a human emotion. Human beings are capable of love when they are willing. But unfortunately, we want to export everything that is beautiful in our life to heaven and live wantonly on this planet. Love, joy, blissfulness – all these are human possibilities. So let us not talk about divine love; let us talk about human love.
爱是人的一种情感。当人们心甘情愿的时候,他们是可以去爱的。但不幸的是,我们想将生命中一切美好的东西寄托于天堂,而在这个星球上放纵地活着。爱,愉悦,满足——所有这些都是人的可能性。因此我们先不要去讨论神的爱,先来谈谈人的爱。
    
Generally, when hormones hijack your intelligence, people think they have fallen in love –that is one aspect. When you say “me,” “myself,” what is it that you are referring to? One thing is your physical body, another thing is your mind – the way you think, yet another thing is your emotion – the way you feel, and the energy which drives the other three things. This is what you are calling as “me.” When this “me” feels pleasant on different levels, we call it by different names. If your emotions become very pleasant, we call it love.
通常情况下,当荷尔蒙冲昏了理智,人们就会觉得他们坠入了爱河——这只是一个方面。当你提到“我” “我自己”,你其实指的是什么呢?一方面是你的肉体,另一方面是你的头脑——你的思维方式,还有一方面是你的情感——你的感知方式,再有就是你的能量——它驱动这以上三个层面。这就是你们所说的“我”。这个“我”在不同的层面上感知到快乐时,会以不同的方式命名它们。若这发生在感情层面上,我们就称其为爱。
   
Love is just one aspect of life. We have given so much importance to it simply because for a long time, in most people emotion has been the strongest part. Even today, though people consider themselves intellectual, still emotion is the strongest part in most of them – not their intellect, their body, or their energy. So making that pleasant is very important. Otherwise, it will find unpleasant expressions. 
爱只是生命的一个方面。我们之所以对它如此重视,就是因为自古以来大多数人都是被感情主导的。甚至如今,尽管人们认为自己很理智,人们中的大多数仍是为感情所控制的,而不是理智、肉体、或能量。因此,在情感层面上愉悦是很重要的。否则,情感就会寻找扭曲的表达方式。
    
If you are feeling very pleasant, suddenly you become like a flower. When somebody is in love, if you look at their faces, suddenly they look like a flower because they are feeling so pleasant within themselves. Whoever you are in love with, they may not even be aware of it – it does not matter. You are in love, that’s all that matters. It is your emotion. It is the way you are.
如果你现在感到非常快乐,突然间你就会变得像一朵花儿一样。当人们沉浸在爱中,你若观察他们的脸,会发现刹那间他们看起来就像花儿一样,因为他们的内心感到如此的快乐。他们可能甚至都没有觉察,自己到底是在跟谁相爱——不过这没关系。自己沉浸在爱中,这才是所有的关键。这就是你的感情,这就是你的状态。
   
Love is not something that you do. Love is something that you are. Either you can use somebody as a support to make yourself loving or you can simply become loving. 
爱不是你所做的。爱是你所是的。你可以把某人看作让你充满爱的支撑,或者你只需要变得充满爱。
    
After all, it is not somebody else’s quality, it is your quality. You are using the other person as a key to open this up. But you can also open it up from inside without the help of the other person. Then it is definitely more enduring because when you open it with the other person’s help – nobody on this planet is 100% reliable.
毕竟,这不是别人的品质,这是你的品质。你正在通过别人作为开启这种品质的钥匙。但是你也可以不借助别人的帮助,从内在开启这种品质。那么这种品质就肯定会更经得起考验,因为另一种情况下你是依靠别人开启这个品质的——而这个星球上没有人是百分之百靠得住的。
    
If you are trying to extract joy, love and pleasantness out of somebody, this is going to be disastrous for both the people. I am not saying it is better to live alone. I am saying the way you are should be determined by you. If this is so and you are here to share your love with people, if you are feeling wonderful and you want to share this with somebody, then it will be very beautiful.
如果你总是试图向别人索取快乐、爱和喜悦,那么这对于双方都是灾难性的。我不是倡导要独自生活。我是在强调你应该自己决定自己的状态。如果真是如此,那么你就能够与人分享你的爱,如果你感觉很好,并且你想要同别人分享这种感觉,那么这就会是一件非常美好的事。

Love&Grace
Sadhguru
爱与恩典
萨古鲁
 
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